Men are From Mars Women are From Venus
Relationship Enrichment Seminar
Dr. John Gray author of the best seller “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”
Dr. Gray mentioned as a preamble to his talk that when his book ‘Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’ had come out he was questioned whether one can make generalizations in terms of the behaviour of men and women. The only response he gave was whether they resonated with what was written in the book and 100% of the time they replied ‘Yes’.
1. The differences between Men and Women are universal. Women all over the world complain that “He doesn’t understand”. “He doesn’t listen”. “Only time he touches me is when he wants sex”. And men all over the world complain that “She doesn’t want to have enough of sex.” (Unless the woman is around 37 years. At this magical age women want more of sex than ever before.)
2. Women like affection from men much more than sex. They want to be hugged. John learnt to hug his wife.
3. Men like to be logical. Women like to share and talk even if there is no point in their sharing and talking. Men need to have an objective. They need to see the point in doing something. They can’t share for the sake of sharing.
4. Men tend to do one thing at a time. Women do many things at a time. Men have a tunnel vision. 95% of their attention is focused on just one thing and 5% on checking of the environment. Women are just the opposite. They are continuously taking in everything that there is in the environment whether it is useful or not.
5. John narrated the incident of his wife asking him to get some milk while coming home from work. He forgets. She considerately puts it down to his thinking of work. She asks him again. Again he forgets. She takes it personally. It’s not that the milk was forgotten but that she was forgotten. Women behave in this manner.
6. Men have their own caves on which the sign states “Please do not disturb.” Men like to retreat into their own world where they feel they are in control. Women also have caves but the sign on their caves is “I need to talk”. When a man asks a woman what’s wrong and she says “Nothing” it really means “Nothing, unless you care to listen and give me an opportunity to talk.”
7. 90% of women go into therapy because they want to be listened to. They want to be asked questions. They want to feel special. Men hate to be questioned. If men want to talk they’ll talk. If they don’t want to talk they won’t. When a man is locked in his cave, the woman thinks that something is wrong with him and goes in and asks questions. This is a wrong move for the woman to make. Men hate to be interrogated.
8. When a woman touches a man she may want to be cuddled. But for a man anywhere he is touched leads to Rome and he thinks therefore that it has to lead to sex.
9. Men want to forget the problems of the day. Women want to remember. A man will say “Forget it, it’s no big deal.” For a woman she will not rest till the problem is talked about. Her response to the man, who wants to just forget about it and not make a big deal out of it, will be “How can you be so insensitive.”
10. Men should never tell a woman how she should feel. In fact if she is unhappy, the man needs to be unhappy with her for a while instead of offering advice.
11. If the man is at a loss for saying anything when the woman is feeling bad then instead of offering advice he could build her up a bit by saying “I know how much you work during the day to make the kids and myself feel happy. It must be very exhausting.” Her unconscious response would be “He understands.” The woman craves for understanding.
12. Women make noises to get attention. Men make noises to signal “Please leave me alone.”
13. To cope with stress, sometimes, women while speaking tend to speak in long sentences and then pause. Men think that the pause is a signal for saying something. Wrong. For the woman the pause is just a semi-colon. Men need to restrain themselves in giving advice.
14. When a woman is upset and a man tries to give a solution 99% of the time her response will be “Yes….but”. When she is relaxed then give the solution. After she has been given the opportunity to talk about it.
15. If a man tries to walk in a woman’s shoes, she will be more willing to understand his point of view. Men tend to expect women to agree with their point of view because they feel it is obviously the best point of view.
16. Men are efficiency oriented. Must do it the easiest and fastest way. Women on the other hand feel that taking the shortest path between 2 points is boring. Women like variation. This is especially true in the bedroom. Men go by the same formula every time while women want variation. Men like uniforms and the same uniform. Men look good in a tuxedo or a suit and that’s it. Every time the same tuxedo or suit. Women like to change their dress; sometimes thrice or even more times in a day.
17. When John’s book ‘Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’ was on the bestseller list for 6 years in a row, John realized how narrowly focused in life he had become. He only gloated about his book being no. 1 on the bestseller list. John was missing the little things of life where his wife and children were concerned. Women are able to see the little things in life and be happy.
18. The more narrow the focus of a man the more stressed he is bound to get. He can’t notice anything else other than what he is focusing on at that moment. Women deal with lots of problems at the same time and the way they cope is to talk about them.
19. Men use their brain sequentially viz. one part at a time. Where women are concerned it is usually the whole brain at once.
20. Women lower stress through talking and sharing. The collectiveness and togetherness which they share is part of their feminity. Men lower their stress by being alone. Women’s attitude is that if we can’t do anything about it then let’s talk about it and suffer together. Men’s focus is on solving the problem. And if they can’t solve the problem then they make the problem disappear by forgetting about it.
21. Men always want to be right.
22. Women, unknowingly sabotage their success. They put themselves down because they want support. Women bond by putting themselves down. For example if one is late for a particular function in the office, the woman will say what an imbecile she is by not catching the right train or missing the connection because of some stupid mistake she made and so on. And other women who are also late will do the same.
23. Or if a woman is having a problem with the computer, she will call the so called expert from the computer department and tell him that she doesn’t know anything about computers and that she is very happy that he has come to her rescue and thereby push the guy way up there. But when he suggests a solution which she tends to disagree with, she doesn’t know how to tell him because if she does it, it makes him come crashing down and he reacts by saying that she has wasted his time. In this case one needs to resort to face saving devices like ‘whatever you have suggested will I am sure help me to figure it out (even if you see no utility in the suggestion).
24. As women more and more enter into the workplace their need to being listened to and understood is not being met. The workplace is efficiency oriented. They are becoming more and more isolated. They have to raise their children alone. Unseen and unheard. And this is causing them to go more and more into depression. The man focusses on work no matter what the problems are that are being experienced at home.
25. Man is efficiency oriented. He needs to feel needed. He needs problems to be solved. If there are no job opportunities or there is no effort called for to do something then the man feels depressed.
26. When women feel nurtured they feel happy. They are happy with the small things of life. Man likes to measure himself against the goal he has set for himself. Men behave like squirrels. They focus on one thing, dash towards it and once they reach there then they turn their focus on another thing and make a dash there and so on and so forth.
27. Men see the news on TV especially after coming home, because the problems they hear about and see make their problems seem that much smaller.
28. John’s soul sings when he teaches. Need to find one’s path and go along it. The fact that one feels fear is because it is one’s path. If it was not one’s path then one would not be so worried about whether one made an impact or not.
29. The truth is I deserve to be the way I am. I need not be bothered to be perfect in order to be loved. Once one lives in an atmosphere of perfect trust the more authentic one becomes, and the more authentic one becomes the more irresistible one becomes. The closer we are to who we truly are the more people will love us. There will always be people who do not love us.
30. Forgiveness is the key. If someone hurts then one needn’t hurt back. As Gandhi said, An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.
31. Women give more. Men want to get more.
32. Women want flowers to be purchased by men. And they should be cut- flowers. So that the flowers die and therefore the men have to go out and purchase them again and again. They do not want the romance to go out of the relationship. Men on the other hand feel that if they have done it once there is no necessity to do it again and again. But women want things and messages to be repeated again and again.
33. Women sometimes give hints viz. On Sunday they will mention that they are getting their hair cut on Thursday. This is to be taken as a warning signal. The hair cut must be noticed. If a woman has to ask how she looks after she has had a hair cut then there is no value placed on the man’s comment. It has to be noticed without being asked. Women put in much more effort in looking good. Men put in more effort in their work.
34. Man wants to be appreciated. Woman wants to be listened to and noticed. Men stress more on what they do while women stress more on their being.
35. Men think that by being flexible they are Mr. Agreeable and that is appreciated by women. Really speaking women want men to take charge and suggest something which they agree on. Mr. Agreeable is boring. The ideal metaphor is to have a man with a plan and a woman with a smile.
36. Sometimes the woman feels that she does everything according to what the man wants. At this point it is necessary for the woman to say “I’ll do it this time your way but next time we’ll do what I want.”
37. Women are always keeping score in a relationship viz. When a woman does anything for a man she always gives herself a point. Men keep score in business. Men need to keep score in a relationship too. They need to do something for the woman so that they too score points from the woman’s point of view.
38. At work the man’s perspective is not to unnecessarily interfere. A man feels that if he doesn’t ask then he is giving total freedom to the woman. But a woman who is a subordinate wants to be asked about her work because silence is taken to mean ‘non-involvement’.
39. Women like the small stuff. Chit-Chat. Occasionally ask some personal questions. The magic words are ‘What else?’
40. To free a man a woman needs to say ‘You don’t need to say or do anything and you don’t need to feel bad.’
41. Listening creates healing.
42. Women by nature give. But when they find that they are not getting anything in return they need to give to themselves. Men have no problem in giving to themselves. Men don’t give enough to others.
43. Men prefer women managers while they learn the job. After learning the job they prefer a male manager.
44. Men sprint faster. Women win the long distance.
45. In men testosterone lowers stress. In women oxytocin lowers stress. Affection, considerateness, being noticed is what produces the oxytocin in women. Therefore men need to learn new skills to produce oxytocin in women. Foreplay is more important for a woman than a man. A woman needs 20-30 minutes of stimulation. A man needs just 2-3 minutes.
46. Women want sensitive men but the danger is that if men become too sensitive then women don’t like it. They want men to be considerate but not to be too sensitive just like them.
47. Don’t try to fix or change your partner.
48. When husband and wife are business partners then there needs to be clear rules. There needs to be a clear demarcated time when no business is talked about.
49. Duty is important but being authentic is more important.
50. Women can be compared metaphorically to the moon. When the moon is full, women crave for sex. When it is half-full, a woman can have it not have it, it does not matter, and when it is a new moon she couldn’t care less.
51. There are different types of sex viz. Healthy, home cooked sex, Ferrari, junk food sex, and Gourmet sex. Once a month one could have Gourmet sex which means bringing in the romance by going out for a dinner and coming home to an atmosphere which slowly climaxes. Whenever he wants sex, and it is a quickie then give it to him. Provided on other occasions there is good, regular homemade sex. In order to arrive at a meaningful understanding one could have 3 candles signifying the 3 types of sex. Either partner finds it very difficult to know the real mood of the other. Depending on which candle is lit and by whom one can behave accordingly. The candle becomes the sign of the mood.
Sex – Why Women Love To Do Naughty And Taboo Things In The Bedroom With The Right Men
Many people live boring sex lives. That’s a shame, but it’s a FACT.
However, the truth is that many women spend a lot of time thinking about having more sex and better sex than they currently get. Oftentimes, women think about NAUGHTY sex and sometimes things that are considered TABOO.
You see, women are wildly sexual creatures, when given the right circumstances.
When I say the right circumstances, what am I talking about?
Well, first off, they have to be with the RIGHT MAN.
The right man must respect his woman, be honest with her (this builds trust) and he must develop an emotional connection with her.
On top of that he must appreciate his woman and not take her for granted.
Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it?
However, 90% of men fail to do one or more of those things with their women. And you have to do those things with your woman OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM, if you want your woman to fully give herself to you inside the bedroom.
It’s when a woman meets a man who knows how to treat her outside the bedroom and inside the bedroom, that she goes on to have the kind of wild, naughty sex that she wants, needs and craves (but that most men know nothing about how to give).
So when I say NAUGHTY, what do I mean?
Well, naughty things are things that you wouldn’t do in the office or whilst out in a restaurant. Naughty things are also the things that many men think women don’t want and that society has taught us that women don’t want.
However, the truth is that women want to get naughty with their man.
Believe me, your woman wants you to spank her bottom when you are having sex with her ‘doggy style’.
She wants you to grab her hair.
She wants you to TALK DIRTY in the bedroom.
She sometimes wants you to ‘do it’ with the lights on, so that you can really see what’s ‘going on’.
Sometimes, she wants you to leave some of her clothes on whilst you make-love to her.
All those are examples of being NAUGHTY. With a little thought and imagination you can come up with another 1000 ways to give your woman naughty sex.
Taboo is stronger than naughty. Taboo is the kind of stuff that society has told us that we shouldn’t do or that if a woman does, it makes her ‘easy’.
But women LOVE TABOO. It makes them feel alive and lets them show their fully sexuality. A great example is ANAL SEX. That’s very taboo.
And the truth is that most women would love to try it but their men have no idea how to go about making it a reality. (It’s actually easy to get your woman into anal sex when you know how).
69 Places For Passion – Lusty Locations to Make Love
When looking to spice up your love life, many couples look for adventurous or novel places to make love. There are certain locations that enable sensual love making while others demand quicker acts of passion. A bedroom is a comfortable place to make love but there are so many exciting and lusty locations to have passionate sex. Whether spontaneous and urgent or planned for fun, sex in new locations can be extremely thrilling.
Creative lovers are always on the look out for opportunities to get wild and frisky. With the right inspiration, every day sex can be transformed into an unforgettable experience. You may have seen other lovemaking location lists but let’s push the envelope and go for at least 69 — always a good number for sex ideas. Remember that for some locations, there are pleasurable sex activities other than intercourse. Oral and manual stimulation can be just as satisfying and more practical in some situations.
Fooling around as passengers in a moving car (back seat while a friend drives, discreetly in a taxi, in a limousine with a privacy screen).
In a parked car during a romantic or exciting event (watching fireworks, admiring a sunrise/sunset, sheltering from a thunderous rain storm).
In a honeymoon suite but not during your Honeymoon. Elegant and fancy or themed for fun, recreate your honeymoon or practice what it would be like.
In a seedy motel. Arrive separately and roleplay an office coworker affair or a prostitute fantasy.
In a high class hotel suite with a panoramic window view — keep the curtains open if you dare.
In a room with at least one hundred candles casting a soft glowing light over your naked bodies while you enjoy sensual pleasuring.
Frosty fornication in a snow fort or igloo you made together is great fun. You can even fashion a special mound to mount on.
On a boat in the open air (not below deck). Consider a canoe, row boat or rubber raft if you don’t have access to a yacht, sail or speed boat with a large deck.
Slick with massage oil wresting on a plastic sheet or in a blowup pool.
In the shower enjoying the sensual, slippery suds and a hand held water massager. Intimate bathing and bonding or hot steamy sex — what ever suits your mood.
In an English garden surrounded by fragrant blossoms. Make it more fun by dressing elegantly and indulge in a sense of aristocratic debauchery.
In a gazebo under the stars, moonlight or noon day sun. Semi outdoor sex as secluded as you dare.
On a king size water bed fitted with satin sheets and lots of fluffy pillows.
In a cool, fast moving stream or small creek. A swirling pool under a water fall is an amazing location if you can find one.
On a swing strong enough for two. Actually swinging together with penetration is tricky, however there are many other fun activities you can do involving a swing.
In a hammock between two palm trees on a secluded ocean front beach.
In a lookout tower or observatory. Finding one that provides a scenic view and opportune privacy will be its own adventure.
Rear entry on a bridge while overlooking the depth below. Even more intense on a swaying rope bridge for added adrenaline rush.
In the stairwell of an apartment or office building — better exercise than taking the elevator. (or on the stairs in you own house)
On the top of a large hill or small mountain under the stars or full moon. Take in the view with a bottle of wine then enjoy each other.
On a train. Either in a rare, vacant car or a private cabin, “playing on the tracks” is a temptation to be tried.
In a van, the back of a pickup truck or on the hood of a sports car.
While skinny dipping at night in a pool, river, lake or ocean. Note that cool water tends to make some bits firmer while others shrink.
In a bath, hot tub or spa. Soak, soothe and sensually stroking each other or stimulate wet and wild sex with invigorating water jets.
On a roof. Outside on the flat top of tall building or (carefully) on a low, slightly sloped roof can be thrilling.
In a field of tall grass or flowers. A secluded, lush green meadow next to a small stream is ideal.
Under a cherry, apple or other fruit tree in full bloom. Enjoy the sensual sights, sounds and smells of Spring whenever you can.
On a pile of pillows. An assortment of shapes, sizes, colors and textures all piled for pleasure. Have a playful pillow fight. Try new positions.
In a barn. A horse stable may bring out the animal in you. The hayloft (on soft straw) can be extremely fun. Roleplay cowboy, stable hand or farmer’s daughter.
Deep in a forest up against a large tree. Agile couples can even try various positions in the tree if the branches are just right.
Outside in the refreshing, cool rain during a hot day or night. Thunder and lightning add to the thrill.
Safely under a sheet metal roof during a hail storm or torrential down pour.
Anywhere under the hot sun with an ice dildo. Make one by freezing a plastic water/pop bottle filled with water and cutting the plastic off.
In a sleeping bag in the open air under a clear sky bright with stars. Go as far away from city lights as possible. Aurora lights will make it even more special.
On a tiny island. Revel in quiet seclusion or spice it up with roleplay. Pretend to be castaways or, for a historic setting, a scout meeting a native first time.
On a beach on the hot, dry sand or right on the shore with the waves lapping up around you. Anywhere you can see and hear huge crashing waves.
In the middle of a sports field or stadium (golf course, soccer, football, rugby, race track, etc.). Most likely best during off season or at night.
In a cave, tunnel or under a bridge. The echoes of your ecstasy or the sounds of traffic overhead can be exciting.
On a trampoline or blowup bouncer. Standing intercourse while jumping may be tricky. An exercise ball will give a similar bouncy feeling for other positions.
In a small clothes or coat closet with the doors closed so it is completely dark. Will someone open it and catch you in the act? Fun at parties.
On a billiard table as a forfeit for losing a few games of Dirty Pool or Six Nine Ball.
On a fur rug/coat in front of a warm, glowing fireplace at night.
In every room of your home and your lover’s home if you live separately.
Creatively on or using stable pieces of furniture. On the kitchen counter, dining table, sofa, foot stool, etc. On the floor and up against the wall too.
In front of a mirror or beneath one attached to the ceiling. Get a revealing new perspective of your love making from new angles.
In front of a tripod mounted video camera or webcam. Record for later, view live or stream to an internet audience if you are an exhibitionist.
In a small log cabin, thatch hut, mud hut or teepee. Include the possibility when planning vacations.
In a garage, boat house or storage shed. Surreptitiously meet while others are outside unaware of your naughty behavior.
In a tree house or fort (either a chance discovery, your own or a neighbors). Pretend you are teenagers fooling around for the first time.
Next to an open fire while camping. A roaring fire stimulates passion while softly glowing embers at night instill romance and intimacy.
On or against a clothes washing machine especially during the spin cycle.
At a sex club or fetish party in a private cubicle or on display for others to see.
On exercise equipment at a private gym. You will definitely enjoy your workout.
In a dark corner of a dance club with a pulsing, pounding beat to grind to. A skirt and no panties/underwear makes this a much easier to perform.
In a parking lot between parked cars/vans. Try underground and above ground parking lots but take care for security systems and surveillance cameras.
Snuggling together in a sleeping bag in a small tent. Weather conditions, wilderness sounds or scary stories can set the mood.
On a designated border line between two countries, states or provinces — one person in each territory engaging in diplomatic relations.
In or near a cemetery at midnight during a full moon if you dare. Standing sex will have both your legs shaking with the thrill.
In a public restroom, change room or even a friends bathroom. Novelty and the risk of getting caught coming out together make this exciting.
On a plush lawn at night or early morning while it is still wet with dew.
In a theatre during an arousing show or to make it more interesting. Remember to bring some wet wipes to clean your fingers.
In a pile of fallen leaves or freshly cut grass.
In a bed covered with rose petals or lots of money.
On a private patio, porch or deck (poolside even better). A sturdy lawn chair or table, air mattress or a few seat cushions may come in handy.
In an elevator (late at night on a weekday might be a good time and dress for a quickie).
At a costume party. Dress the part for a sexy roleplaying scenario. Flirt and play act until you can secretly meet to fulfill your fantasy.
Out on a high rise apartment balcony or next to a large window near the top floor. Try standing rear entry while looking down below.
In a private adult playroom stocked with a wide variety of pleasuring implements. Bondage devices, costumes, toys and other playthings will whet your desire.
Inside a walk in vault (it has happened but tends to require an employee or owner to facilitate). A walk in fridge or supply room is a quick alternative.
Some lovemaking locations may actually be a little tricky, costly, too exotic or even slightly dangerous depending upon your circumstances. However, if an idea intrigues you, you can always setup a scenario and roleplay a situation in a pretend location. With a little imagination and a few props, you can create a fantasy setting to fulfill your desires. You can even recreate historical, fanciful or alien space settings.
Best Sexual Positions ~ Spicy Up the Woman on Her Back Position
Are you tired of having your lover fall asleep on top of you after sex? Then it’s time to introduce the best sexual positions into your love making and possibly even fire-up the intimacy between the sheets. Adding variety in sexual positions with the woman on her back can potentially lead to the most amazing sex and bring you the most incredible orgasm, if you know how.
First, spice up the woman on her back position by participating in the pumping, the gyrating and all that coital hip movement that comes with this sexual position. Lift your hips and meet him thrust for thrust. Experiment with different angles in this sexual position. This will allow for variance in depth of penetration, intensifying the sex. To get the best out of this sexual position, raise your knees up, bracing your feet on the bed or ground or wherever you are lying down, gyrate your hips as you bring your lover towards the pinnacles of sexual pleasure.
One of the best sexual positions to try during love making is to open your legs wide lifting them up. Open your legs as wide as you can in a letter V-shape and you’ll see that this simple leg movement allows for even deeper penetration. The higher you can lift your legs up, the deeper your lover can penetrate you. For best results, embrace your lover with your legs or brace your feet on his butt and increasing the depth of his thrust.
The key to the best sexual position for the woman on her back is to prolong your orgasm by relaxing your vaginal muscles. Put your legs down alongside or underneath your lovers’. The shallower thrust with this position enables him to maintain a rock-hard erection and make the loving last for hours.
Most important of all, is to practice these sexual positions, it is essential to unlocking the secrets to sexual pleasure. By making your lovemaking technique supercharged, steamy and earth-shattering the last thing he’ll do is fall sleep!
How To Clean Up A Really Big Mess
Sometimes we find ourselves facing a big mess. A child’s room, a garage or a closet that gives the impression it has recently experienced a particularly violent tornado. As we gaze at the toys, pieces of toys, books, dolls, clothes, sports equipment, trash etc. strewn about the space, we ask ourselves where do we start? That question stops most of us dead in our tracks. Actually, there is a definite place to begin, no matter what kind of mess you have.
First, get a big trash bag.
Second begin by picking up only one kind of item. For example in a child’s room – begin by picking up all of one kind of toy (doll clothes, action figures, Legos etc.) Put all of that kind of item away where it belongs. If you have no place for it, put it all in one pile, a plastic bin or a big plastic bag. If you find objects damaged beyond repair – throw them away. If you come across trash while collecting any of the items – throw it away.
Move on to the next item and continue until all categories of items are put away or everything is sorted by type. If your space is limited you may have to put your sorted items in the hall, another room or in the case of the garage the driveway. You can also get one of those clear plastic over the door shoe holders and hang it on the door of the room you are working on. You put small items into these pockets and this will help prevent them from getting lost.
If you have no storage space for your sorted items you’ll have to create some. Since you have already gone through the cleaning up process it should be easier to do.
This method works for closets, files, garages – really any space that has gotten messy and out of control. If your big mess is strictly files and papers purchase a large pack of inexpensive file folders. You can sort your paperwork into these manila files and store them temporarily in those paper file boxes.
2 Story Garage Plans
Having a big family would definitely mean having all the articles of items and knickknacks that would eventually need to be stored away. Or better yet, a place where it can be made as a recreational room that would seem better than the basement. This can be done with the right 2-story garage plan.
A 2 story garage have been an invaluable way of creating a more secure space for personal belongings or the means of getting an extra room for something else. As it suggests, it may require remodeling or just simply constructing an entirely new garage in order to fit the homeowner’s needs.
The main garage area can be as big or as small, depending on the number of vehicle the owner has. Since most Americans may have at least two cars, the floor space would be more beneficial, considering the second floor should be equal to the floor space of the garage itself.
The advent of today’s 2 story garages have grown significantly, wanting to spend little when it comes to construction cost as well as the timeframe needed in order to complete the garage. Most 2 story garage plans are small, which the second floor can be turned into a studio-type room or a single bedroom with a floor space of 100 square meters. Construction of a 2 story garage are no longer the common materials, since the second floor can be occupied by a single person or a small family.
Some of the most interesting designs for a 2 story garage have been found mostly in Asia as well as several States in the US. These garages have been around since the 50′s, when the need for housing has far exceeded the supply, and the designs were similar to row houses like that of San Francisco.
When deciding to construct a 2 story garage, there is not much deliberation needed in this case. These garages are versatile in every way, when the need for an extra room is no longer required, it can be made as a simple storage area for most of the homeowner’s personal belongings. If not, the garage can be made into a small office for those who work at home, or literally work in their garages. Most of these contractors would sell the plans between $250 to $600, depending in the size, but not too large that the floor space of the garage area would be wasted on just one car, even if they managed to put in all their belongings for storage.
How To Use A Feng Shui Fish Tank
In Asian and Chinese culture, fish play an important role. You have likely seen many works of Asian and Chinese are that portray koi, or goldfish, and there are also many designs for Asian-style water gardens which allow you to incorporate these lovely creatures into your home. When you are using this art and science, you may also want to have a feng shui fish tank at home. Where do you begin, and what is the best location for it in the house? Are there other places within the home where you should not install it?
Tank Need Not Be Large
Sometimes, people may be under the erroneous impression that when you are considering a fish tank, this means a very large fish tank that will occupy an entire wall in a room, but this is not the case. As with all of the basic principles, simplicity and balanced are very important, so attempting to fit a too-large fish tank somewhere within a smaller home or room will just make the room feel cluttered, definitely against the principles of feng shui.
Using a small aquariums is just as good, particularly is it adds to the balance of the room. And a feng shui fish tank may not be a fish tank at all. Even a simple fishbowl containing one or two goldfish can work just fine, if it is correctly displayed and maintained. If you are on a tight budget for decorating, this is helpful to know, because you do not need to spend a lot of cash in order to buy a big aquarium, stock it with fish, and maintain it.
Where to Install
Feng shui incorporates natural elements, identifying five elements- water, wood, fire, metal and earth. The five elements are intended to be complementary to each other, and to be balanced so that none of them overpowers the other in a room or other area. The fish tank you are planning to install will likely be used as a room accent, especially if it is a fishbowl or smaller tank.
In a room which is decorated with colors in earth tones, like a warm tan or brown, a water element is a perfect complement. If the fish are then bright colors, for example orange or yellow, this can contrast with the warm earth tones very nicely.
Be sure that your feng shui fish tank is not clamoring for attention with other elements in your room. By having it where you also have a fireplace, say in a living room, the fish tank may not work. These two strong, large elements may compete for attention, and will not result in harmony. Take time to determine where is best for your fish tank, so that it is complementary to your room and environment, so that you are using your fish tank properly.
Home Exercises to Lose Weight Quickly – 5 Tips
Exercise is an important part of any weight loss regimen. But with busy schedules, we all want to know which exercises will help us lose the most weight quickly.
Broadly, there are two types of exercises: aerobic and strength training (or anaerobic), and each one contributes differently to weight loss. Aerobic exercise burns fat calories while you are engaged in the exercise itself. On the other hand, strength training primarily contributes to weight loss by helping to increase the speed of your resting metabolic rate (RMR), which is the number of calories your body burns while you are at rest. Your RMR actually increases (i.e., burns more calories) the more muscular your body is because it takes much more energy to maintain muscles than it does to maintain fat.
Important note: remember that muscle weighs more than fat, so some strength training exercises will make you healthier and more attractive while not necessarily contributing to weight loss. But, muscles are a “good” kind of weight and you should aim to build more muscle in order to help keep body fat at bay.
Here are 5 tips for exercises – both aerobic and strength training – you can do at home to lose weight quickly.
Tip #1: Squats: Your buttocks and leg muscles are the largest muscles in your body. Every day in front of the mirror, put your feet at shoulder width while facing forward and squat down-and-up 10-20 times for 2 or 3 sets. This will build your leg and buttock muscles. As you build up strength, try holding 2 or 5 pound dumbbells in your hands while you work out. Be sure to warm up first, and stop if you notice any sharp pain in your knees.
Tip #2: Pushups: Pushups are a form of strength training: during a pushup your arms have to support up to 70% of your body weight. Do 2 or 3 sets of 20 pushups to build arm strength and increase your RMR.
Tip #3: Jumping jacks: Jumping jacks are an excellent whole-body aerobic workout you can do right at home. Do 4 or 5 sets of 20 jumping jacks, or as needed. Hint: if you live in an apartment or stay in a second-story bedroom, be considerate of your neighbors by going outside or doing these in a first story room.
Tip #4: Fast walking: While walking is in itself a great aerobic exercise, fast walking is even better for burning fat. Make sure you really stretch first and warm up with regular walking. Once you start your faster walking pace, try to maintain as much speed as possible for as long as you can. If you get tired, try doing intervals of fast walking followed by short periods of slower walking.
Tip #5: Stepping: Stepping is a great way to get your heart beating and to burn calories. You can use your stairs at home, but for best results I suggest buying specialized stackable step mats and stack them up to at least 15 inches (38 cm). Do 2 to 3 sets of 20 steps each to begin. Even though you may not feel like the stepping is helping, it is! This exercise will not only help you lose weight but will also help shape up your buttocks and legs.
An important element in a strategy to lose weight quickly at home is to do a combination of exercises that build muscles (strength training) while burning fat (aerobic exercises). Start a regimen of most or all of these exercises 2-3 days/week and watch the unhealthy fat melt away.
The Top 10 Tiling Mistakes or How To Lay Tile Properly
Tiling is one of the popular home improvement do-it-yourself tasks, and many homeowners assume they can do it without much preparation. However, if you want a quality result right away, it is essential to pay attention to a number of important issues. Nothing says “do-it-yourselfer” louder than a make-do solution when tiling.
Here are 10 of the most common mistakes made during tile installation:
10) Not preparing the surfaces well enough
It is important to clean and smooth the surface which you will be laying tile on thoroughly. Trying to save time on this step can lead to an uneven and instable tiling. Any wallpaper or other foreign coatings should be removed prior to tiling.
9) Grouting unevenly or too quickly
Ideally you should spread the grout evenly and slowly, using a support tool like a squeegee. If you try to be too fast and grout a large area before laying tile, the grout on far-off spots may dry out before you actually get to tile. Distributing grout too hastily also is likely to lead to an uneven tiling result. Also, it is important to remove any excess grout immediately after laying tile, because it will be much harder to do once it has dried up.
Dotting corners
Some people believe that by adding dots of adhesive to the corners of tiles they achieve a stronger bond. However, by doing so you actually increases the chance of cracking because the adhesive shrinks as it dries. With the adhesive being thicker in some areas (for instance in the corners), the shrinking will add pressure on the tile.
7) Choosing the wrong adhesive
This is particularly important for laying tile in humid rooms like bathrooms and swimming pools. In such cases waterproof adhesive is a must. Even well-fitted tiles can let some water through to the adhesive, which eventually calles crumbling and breaking with non-waterproof adhesives.
6) Not using battens
Optimally you should use battens (thin rods of wood, alternatively any other long straight object) both in horizontal and vertical directions to lay tiles in possibly straight lines. Trying to lay tile without such a helper tool will often result in positioning mistakes and a generally bad look of the tiled surface.
5) Not discovering and fixing mistakes quickly enough
A rare first-time tiling job gets done flawlessly right away. Most likely, you will have a few awkward spots here and there. It is important to have a fresh eye look over your tiling result shortly after you are done, ideally within the first 6-12 hours. The faster you spot problems, the easier it is to fix them. A misplaced tile 24+ hours after you’re done can be quite difficult to fix since the grout will already have hardened.
4) Not removing excess grout accurately
One of the most common signs of an amateur tiling, protruding grout is something that is easy to fix.
3) Miscalculations with the number of tiles needed
Some first-time tilers will just buy exactly the number of tiles to cover the area they want to tile. However, in practice, you should get 5%-10% more tiles than the minimum to insure yourself against breakages, miscalculations and difficulties cutting to size. This also gives you some spare tiles to replace cracked ones in future.
2) Failing to seal bath tops properly
If the gap between the bottom row of tiles and the bath top is not sealed properly, water may leak into it as it runs down the tiles. Usually it is recommended to fill the bath before using the sealant, since baths can move significantly when filled with water, which can strain and crack sealant if it is not anticipated.
1) Insufficient or erroneous planning
This is probably the most important mistake, and also the one which is easiest to avoid. Instead of going for a make-do solution, always be sure to measure out the surface you need to tile carefully. Be aware that installing curved tile is significantly more difficult than tiling a flat wall. Plan for at least 10-15% waste and spare tiles for future replacements. Try to keep it simple. Cutting tile can be frustrating and expensive, so the fewer cuts you make, the less expensive your project is.
Don’t hesitate to read up materials purchase some of the inexpensive video lessons (for instance the ones available at http://www.tilehowto.com). For a larger project, perhaps even arrange a brief designer consultation – an experienced eye can often discern problems that might cost you hundreds to fix afterwards.
Why Women Love To Have Dirty, Naughty Sex In The Bedroom, (But Only With A Certain Type Of Man)
Have you ever dreamed of a life where you had really naughty, dirty sex with your woman EVERY SINGLE DAY?
If you answered “YES” to that question (and I’m pretty sure you did because that is what almost every man wants) – read on and I’ll explain some of the reasons to you as to…
Why Women Love To Have Dirty, Naughty Sex In The Bedroom (But Only With A Certain Type Of Man)
Before I tell you why women love to have dirty, naughty sex with certain types of men, let me first share a few sexual secrets with you that most men are unaware of, but that DRIVE WOMEN MAD:
Most men are clueless in bed
Most men do not regularly give their women ORGASMS
30% of women have never had an orgasm
Pretty interesting, isn’t it?
You see – we guys are quite easy to please. As long as we are naked, in bed with a woman we are physically attracted to and having sex – we tend to be HAPPY with our sex-lives.
But for women; sex is very different.
Women need great sex, (including lots of orgasms), in order to enjoy it and really want it.
And this leads us into why women love to have dirty, naughty sex in the bedroom BUT only with a certain type of man…
Women want ORGASMS.
They want clitoral orgasms, they want VAGINAL ORGASMS and they want multiple orgasms. Truth be told – most woman also want SQUIRTING ORGASMS (YES – female ejaculation does exist).
And when a man comes along who can give a woman that kind of PLEASURE – that woman will feel like she has won the sexual lottery. At this point, she’ll want to have DIRTY, NAUGHTY SEX with that man all the time.
And I do mean ALL THE TIME.
The reason why she’ll want to have sex with that man all the time is because it feels so good for her. Another reason is because women are way more sexual than men. Yes, I really did just say that.
But most men never see that really sexual side of women because they don’t know how to bring it out of them. Women need a strong, sexually confident man to bring their wildly sexual side out of them.
They cannot do it on their own.
And sadly, because most men are lacking in sexual confidence – that explains why most women are not experiencing the kind of INTENSE ORGASMIC PLEASURE in the bedroom that they want, need, crave and deserve.
To summarize everything we’ve just talked about, here is how to make any woman want to have naughty, dirty sex with you all the time…
Give her great sex
Give her many kinds of orgasms (clitoral, vaginal, multiple, squirting and more)
In order to give your woman those kinds of orgasms and totally sexually satisfy her, you must do the following:
Be strong and SEXUALLY CONFIDENT
Lead her
Make each and every sexual adventure different every time
Use your voice and TALK DIRTY
Learn some simple, yet highly effective ORGASM TECHNIQUES